Growing Around Grief: Making Space for Healing

When we lose someone or something we deeply love, we often hear phrases like “time heals all wounds” or “you’ll move on.” These words are usually well-meaning—but they miss a vital truth.

Grief doesn’t just go away.

What really happens is something quieter, something deeply human: we grow around our grief.

This idea, beautifully illustrated by Dr. Lois Tonkin’s “Growing Around Grief” model, shows that grief doesn’t shrink over time. Instead, our lives expand—we build new relationships, find meaning, experience joy, and embrace purpose. And as life grows, grief stays with us, but it no longer consumes the entire jar.

What This Means for You

Grief isn’t something to “get over.” It’s something to carry, with compassion and care.

At Restoration Counseling LLC, we recognize that every journey through grief is unique. Whether your loss is recent or many years old, it still matters. You matter.

We’re here to walk with you as you learn to make space in your life—not to erase your pain, but to create room for healing and hope alongside it.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

If you're feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply want a space to talk about your loss, I’m here to support you.

📩 Email Jessica at Jessica@RestorationCounselingDSM.com to schedule an appointment today.
Your grief is real, your story matters, and your healing can begin now.

You don’t need to let go of what you’ve lost.
But you can grow. And we can help.