Healing Through Attachment: Understanding How Your Style Impacts Relationships

Attachment styles influence how we connect, communicate, and cope in our relationships. They are formed in early childhood but show up throughout our adult lives—especially in how we handle closeness, conflict, and emotional needs.

At Restoration Counseling LLC, I help clients understand their attachment style so they can move toward secure, fulfilling connections with others and themselves. Whether your style is secure, avoidant, anxious, or disorganized, awareness is the first step toward lasting change.

Here’s a breakdown of the four attachment styles and how growth is possible with each:

Secure Attachment
Secure individuals communicate openly, express emotions with ease, and are comfortable with intimacy and independence. They trust others, can be vulnerable, and feel confident in their self-worth. For secure individuals, maintaining emotional balance and navigating healthy relationships is more natural—but still benefits from intentional self-care practices like exercise, sleep, and emotional flexibility.

Avoidant Attachment
Avoidantly attached individuals often struggle with emotional intimacy and may withdraw or shut down during conflict. Their independence is a form of protection from the discomfort closeness can bring. Therapy can support avoidant types by teaching emotional regulation, self-awareness, and how to build deeper, more connected relationships without fear of being overwhelmed.

Anxious Attachment
Those with anxious attachment may feel emotionally overwhelmed, crave reassurance, and fear abandonment. Their nervous systems are highly sensitive, and they often worry about their place in relationships. Through therapy, they can learn to self-soothe, build internal trust, and feel safe in relationships without needing constant reassurance from others.

Disorganized Attachment
Disorganized attachment is marked by a mix of avoidant and anxious behaviors, often rooted in trauma or early relational confusion. These individuals may deeply desire connection but fear it at the same time. Therapy can help them develop self-regulation tools, build trust, and learn to distinguish between past fears and present reality.

No matter where you fall, healing is possible.

Attachment styles are not life sentences—they’re starting points. With awareness, compassion, and the right support, you can rewire your responses and move toward healthier, more secure relationships.

📩 Ready to explore your attachment style? Schedule an appointment with Jessica at Restoration Counseling LLC by emailing jessica@restorationcounselingdsm.com
Let’s start the journey to secure connection, emotional growth, and relational healing—together.