When Work Hurts: Recognizing and Healing from Workplace Abuse
For many of us, work is more than just a paycheck—it’s where we spend a large portion of our lives, form professional relationships, and strive toward meaningful goals. But what happens when your workplace becomes a source of fear, anxiety, or psychological harm?
Workplace abuse is a serious and often misunderstood issue. It can take many forms—bullying, manipulation, gaslighting, exclusion, or intimidation—and can occur at any level of an organization. Often, the abuse is subtle, hidden under the guise of "high expectations" or "personality clashes." But the effects are far-reaching and deeply personal.
Understanding the Cycle of Workplace Abuse
Dr. Deb Duthie’s Workplace Power and Control Wheel sheds light on the complex dynamics of abuse within professional environments. Mirroring patterns seen in domestic violence, the wheel highlights behaviors used to exert power and control over others in the workplace. These include:
Undermining credibility or confidence
Isolating an employee from key meetings or information
Using supervisory roles to intimidate or punish
Silencing voices through policies or fear of retaliation
Minimizing concerns through ineffective conflict management
Creating a culture where bystanders feel powerless to intervene
These behaviors thrive in silence and ambiguity, often leaving the targeted individual feeling confused, ashamed, and unsupported.
You Are Not Alone
If this resonates with you, please know: what you're experiencing is valid, and help is available.
Therapy can provide a safe, confidential space to process what you’re going through, rebuild your sense of self, and learn tools to navigate—or exit—an unhealthy work environment. Whether you're currently in a toxic workplace or healing from the aftereffects, you're deserving of support and empowerment.
At Restoration Counseling LLC, we are here to walk beside you on that journey. If you're navigating workplace abuse or struggling with its impact on your mental health, reach out today.
📩 Email Jessica at Jessica@RestorationCounselingDSM.com to schedule a confidential appointment or to learn more about our therapy services.
You don’t have to stay stuck. Healing is possible—and it can start today.
