🏠 The Sound Relationship House: Building a Stronger Marriage From the Foundation Up

If your marriage has felt more like a construction zone than a place of connection, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Relationships take work, and sometimes, they need a little renovation. One of the most respected blueprints for relational success is The Sound Relationship House, created by renowned relationship expert Dr. John Gottman.

This model offers a clear, research-based framework for creating a healthy and lasting partnership. At Restoration Counseling LLC, I use this tool in couples counseling to help rebuild trust, reignite connection, and strengthen communication.

🧱 What Is the Sound Relationship House?

Think of your relationship like a house. A strong home needs a solid foundation, supporting walls, and intentional structure. Here’s how the levels of the Sound Relationship House work:

🔴 Build Love Maps

Get to know your partner’s inner world—hopes, fears, stressors, and dreams.

🧡 Share Fondness and Admiration

Shift your focus from criticism to appreciation. Small affirmations build big love.

💛 Turn Towards Instead of Away

Respond to your partner’s bids for connection—these small moments matter.

💚 The Positive Perspective

Learn to see your partner through a lens of goodwill, not resentment.

💙 Manage Conflict

Conflict is inevitable—but with tools like calm dialogue and emotional regulation, it doesn’t have to be destructive.

💙 Make Life Dreams Come True

Support each other’s individual goals and shared aspirations.

💜 Create Shared Meaning

Rituals, goals, and values—build a life together that reflects your "why."

All of this rests on two crucial pillars: TRUST and COMMITMENT. Without those, even the best tools will struggle to hold the relationship up.

🛠️ Is Your Relationship in Need of Repair?

You might be feeling distant, frustrated, or misunderstood. Maybe communication has broken down, or life stress has chipped away at your connection. That doesn’t mean the love is gone—it means it’s time to intentionally rebuild.

At Restoration Counseling LLC, I specialize in helping couples restore the trust, intimacy, and partnership they long for using evidence-based tools like the Sound Relationship House.

🧡 Ready to Reconnect?

If your marriage feels more like survival than partnership, it’s time to make a change.
📧 Email jessica@restorationcounselingdsm.com to schedule an appointment today.
Together, we’ll help you build the relationship you both deserve—brick by brick.